Insecurities.
One of my most significant challenges growing up. State of mind is an essential factor in any man’s/woman’s success in this journey of life. “When the going gets tough the tough get going” a cliche saying that gets thrown around a lot. It involves the heart and also the voices in your head but mostly your heart. Just two years ago I decided to try a cardio class at my jiu-jitsu gyms headquarters. Just the first round alone had my body getting pushed beyond its cardio limit, with every muscle and breath and in my body struggling and pushing myself. It was one of those moments after you finish when you can genuinely tell yourself that you pushed yourself beyond your limit. There was a point in my training in which my body and mind were just that exhausted that I couldn’t use the thoughts in my head to push me anymore. The only thing driving me was whatever was inside of me. This is how I imagine boxers in the ring fight during the last few rounds or how an army general fights during intense moments on the battlefield. Dig deep! The saying my coach was yelling out at us as we pushed though the cardio class.
Your heart is what your fighting for. A lot of people especially ones who come from a dark past with a lot of adversity have this strength inside of them in which they forced out in order to move forward. The emotional pain that once crippled us, we felt like being free from it will bring back our sanity, or having our self-esteem regularly attacked when we are younger can develop this fight within us. Under our facade and mask in which we show to the world we have an intense history of trying to ‘grow up.’ I believe its the struggle that strengthens us. Ambition as much as it brings us success it can also be an addiction. Getting high on that next promotion or that next level to our business as we grow and grow and spend more hours pounding and pounding. At an unhealthy level success is sometimes a distraction to help us evade the real problems we face in our lives, compensating the need to be emotionally vulnerable with the ego high you get from sitting on the executive chair.
A mode of passion is what I call this, and it’s derived from a book I read from my Hinduism culture. It’s a mode in which you are worshipping something involving greed or vanity. Money for example. Our westernized world is revolved around this concept; we have every Tom, Dick, and Harry conforming to this as it seems to be an answer to all our prayers. Earn a lot of money, earn more money, buy a lot of things and live a happy life. If this were true, I don’t think we would have a lot of celebrities with all the rich and fame in the world overdosing on drugs. If money equals happiness wouldn’t a lot of people be truly happy? I have met a lot of humans who lived average lives who were happy. A lot of my family in Fiji, living without a lot of the privileges we have here in Australia live happy lives. This is a big part of mindset in which every day you need to count your blessings and have feels for them, understand that faith in duty, humility and compassion give growth to a better world and that being human is being happy.
To conclude I want to give a big shout out to one of my favorite bloggers Mark Mason. While I am still new and I am just hitting the start of my blogging hobby, Mark is who inspired me to start. He actually has a blog on this subject way better explained than me. https://markmanson.net/stop-trying-to-be-happy
Stay humble, keep hustling and feel the love!
